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  • Hypocrisy is red in color 

    Zadexpress 3:17 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: hypocricy,

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    • mp 3:44 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      another “angry” post here i see… would be interesting to read your views on anger management too :)

    • k 8:43 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      i can see that your sense of ‘humour / anger’ has changed a bit. i’m sorry if this entry was meant to sound angry but i found it funny, esp the second last para. u must have been very angry to attack someone’s dressing habits that way. mean, mean girl !
      lol.
      can’t stop smiling at how u must have looked like or sounded if u had been recounting it personally.

      god help the girl and save her from thy wrath !

    • k 8:46 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      n mp ji, i’ll tell u a little about her views on anger management…. it’s to bang doors and break things if your heart wishes to at the moment. that’s what she taught me once. hope no one’s thinking of taking any lessons from her anytime soon.

    • Hmm 10:49 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      I wish to punch, straight on the nose of such ppl and send them crying all over…a little bit of anger is always good, I think. Hypocrisy… I hate.

    • Zadexpress 10:17 am on April 27, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Your comment was like a “safety net” here K ! hahaha n yah m not angry in this blog…howsoever I have been perceived. not trying to be funny either , just expressing the thoughts generated by the event. Teti ho: the dikka ( ness) and wakka( ness) of having to cross paths n witness hypocrisy in all its glory and might. Wasn’t mocking the dress sense, ( m sorry) if it sounds that way but the T-shirt just looked like a keti wearing kta ko t-shirt . It was the first thing that crossed my mind when I noticed the T-shirt. Come on yaar, I got no worthwhile sense of dress up to ‘attack’ someone else on that grounds. ( Though I think ppl always think I sound too critical and cynical…again not under my control) and anger isn’t towards the person but at the realization that there is no ‘dispute settlement mechanism’ in life as in the frustration on realizing that how people can be universally ‘wrong’ but always get away faking it to be ‘right’..and in this case I see no need to debate on if there is anything called right and wrong too. Dishonesty is wrong..that is the only value I hold. ( i think it sounded like a bhasan) but you know that utter sense of helplessness…how can you get away wit lies,lies.lies and lies and then top it up with a ’smile’! dismantles my entire perception of the way the world should function or functions…

      n for my ‘views’ on anger management. I don’t do any of those! Though “Anger Management’ is one of my favorite movies! hahaha it’s all well and good if ppl think I do all that you stated cuz helps me keep my distance too ! And thanks again to you for this blog comment section is getting a lil hard to handle these days with heights of vulgarity combined with threats ( for reasons) only God knows why… so I feel good to see people I KNOW write here… loudly thinking if this ‘comment’ section in a ‘personal blog’ is a good idea in itself…but still being patient for the time being ….Thanks nyway. :)

    • simpleboy 11:49 am on April 29, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Nice article! I liked your anger! Voted up for you in netkhabar.com Keep it up!

    • Dikshya 12:31 pm on April 30, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Maybe you are right. Hyprocracy could be red. I myself have witnessed anumber of hypocrites donnning red. But it’s just a clolor and any hypocrite would be a hypocrite , wearing or not wearing red.
      About anger management I guess sublimation works best.

    • k 5:39 pm on April 30, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      u’re most welcome dear. but this thing about ‘threats’…… i mean, how serious can ppl get over a simple personal blog? they must really be very unhappy to try n make others unhappy as well. but u go on, girl ! u’re doing great n we love u !

    • aAkaR 9:48 pm on April 30, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      reD !

    • finnegan 11:40 am on May 12, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Thats crazy about threats! don’t worry we still read ya despite ur dirty feet. oh and my team won the league which makes red the colour of victory too, in naya nepal n in uk wooohooo :)

    • Zadexpress 12:26 pm on May 12, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      u are a really irritating kuire @ times ( read most times) aren’t you? though red…is still hypocritical even if its the Maoists we’re talking of…tho a teacher of mine says the so called democrats are the biggest hypocrites of all…n lau badhai cha tapailai for ManUtd victory… ( if I am not mistaken)…

  • enLIGHTenMENT 

    Zadexpress 11:23 am on April 16, 2008 Permalink | Reply
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    िमली हवाओं में उड्ने ि क वो सजा यारो

    के मैं जमीन के रिस्तों से कट गया यारो

    I have never heard this song. But the lyrics PERFECTLY fit into this situation. The old mental picture of the world or the universe at large which is basically not the uncountable number of stars and masses but people which form something called society is hard to destroy. The world being a mirror of one’s thoughts differs according to people as “thoughts” differ. A mere question of the “view” one has and a different world altogether.

    Long ago, in my earlier days of being acquainted with the blogging world someone had told me “This isn’t Paradise”. ” Paradise” to be exact meant people who blog. (Add people who COMMENT to it as well).

    I was shocked. The shock led to sadness. In a long time, really long time I felt sad, in the truest sense of the word. What kind of people made this world? And can there even be “people” or “humans” like that. What sick mentality caused them to write such low/ degrading (think of the word which represents digress of humanity at its most). Maybe, that is supposed to be normal.( But) Why normalize the bad? There are some things which can be accepted as “someone else’s” opinion which is “different” than yours. People hold different views. Some are just nothing else but an attempt to demoralize the person, hurt them, break them down. I may be wrong about the notion that “the world is full of good people” meaning ( who do onto others as they would be done by) but I think I understand the ‘intention’ of people ( not all times though) .It’s sad that I realize it so late in life that I feel nearly ‘incapable’ of changing my world view from something good and positive to a place where people are just too keen on bringing others down and what not.

    The irony, ithis world is full of impostors and no matter how much the ’society’ at large talks of ethics and humanity it hails the bad, it is instinctively attracted by the bad. Reminds of the character, I used to observe everyone of them in details ( to understand the mechanism of the blogging universe). It was clear: they wouldn’t have known it but there they were loving, adoring everything which was stated, actually even the grammatically ‘wrong’ stuff was ‘raw’, it was ‘nice writing’ anything. They didn’t know it, but they loved it! Subconsciously, they all did it.

    I should have been scandalous, it would be great then! Oh, what a fine writing I would have created, even if I would ‘know’ the innumerous flaws in it. So, after a day of pain and irritation because of cold, I want to move on for good.

    There is a saying in Nepali:
    Rakshyan ma Thuke, afnai mukhma chita parcha.

    That’s what I want to say. Your acceptance and understanding of the writings isn’t sought.Don’t show your lack of control over yourself by being in a place you don’t want to be in.


    Let no man pull you low enough to hate him.
    Martin Luther King.

     
    • juggy 5:44 pm on April 17, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Don’t let them get you! Tyo yeuta arko crude ukhan chha ni: Goo lai chalaye gandha!! Thats the same way; its better to ignore such ignorant dumbos and go on. There is no way you can eliminate these kind of people; the best way is to isolate them and then hope for the day when they fight among each others and be extinct. Life is too precious to dwindle upon these cheap bastards (Please don’t mind my language!If You did sorry but I really think they deserve this word!)

      Happy New Year BTW!! :)
      Hope there is New Nepal and wonderful new year ahead!

    • Zadexpress 10:44 am on April 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Thank You! Long time no see :wink: . A very happy , happy new year to you too. You seem to be globe trotting a lot, hope you have time to visit the New Nepal as well! :)

    • /A 7:55 pm on April 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      “I have never heard this song”

      Just FYI..

      I have just listened this song on a Ghazal website, with lyrics.

      http://ekfankaar.wordpress.com/2008/04/18/mili-hawaaon-mein-udne-ki/

    • Nepali Keto 9:02 am on April 19, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      So poor you are! Always sticking in the same thing, never can come out of that. very funny who tells herself a lonely driver, and who seems always bound to be nonsense thing. Girl, grow up, you find lots of people who may not walk in your track and for whom you are out of track.
      it makes you feel sad, they dont care or they dont show you. you cant enjoy in their situation, you cant say they hurt you because you never know who is hurting to whom! may be the same way people are treating you, Gunlai chalayo gandha!!!!
      and well, dont know what blog is but yes, it is paradise for you because you got the place where you can scream! Why I find you yelling, every time I come to read you? MY dear, I feel you have taken life, more seriously than it should be.
      Anyways, keep writing!

    • Dikshya 3:38 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Life’s full of imposters n double faced monsters. People are seldom what they seem on the outside. It’s hard to survive being a goody goody.

      You are doing great with ur blogging. I don’t hear u yelling….u rock!

    • Zadexpress 3:56 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      To Nepali Keto:

      Every one is entitled to their own opinion so I approve them as I wish to. It is also interesting to look into how the same thing is seen differently by many people. But the unnecessary debate about a ‘point of view’ of the com mentors whether on the entry or among themselves isn’t worth having in ‘personal’ blogs. So I am not really interested in ‘dare you’ to approve sort of things here. You had a point in the last comment but tis ( the one not seen here) ‘dohori’ was unnecessary.

      To MP:

      Interesting view again. You see anger in it, while i wrote that in the awe of ” the guts of people” ..well wat can I say other than “munde, munde matir vinna” … and at the same time the risks of blogging your brains out if you get it… but I can only know what emotion instigates my writing, can’t expect others to get the same. And maybe it’s my writing defect that I can’t get things across to people as well. Anyways, thanks for the insight!

  • नयाँ नेपालको नयाँ प्रेमपत्र 

    Zadexpress 1:12 pm on April 14, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: loveletters,

    प्रिय आकाश,

    लाल सलाम!

    भित्ते राष्ट्रपतिको संज्ञा दिने सबै राजनीतिक पार्टीलाई धुलो

    चटाउँदै हाम्रा कमरेड प्रचण्ड भित्तामा नभई वास्तवमै नेपालको प्रथम राष्ट्रपति हुने सम्भावना

    बढेको छ। जनताले परिवर्तनको पक्षमा भोट गरेका छन् , देश युगान्तकारी परिवर्तन तर्फ उन्मुख

    हुँदैछ। हिजो माओवादीको खेदो मात्र खन्ने सञ्चार माध्ययम पनि अहिले हाम्रै महिमागानमा

    तल्लिन छन्। तिमी त समाचारको किरो, सुनेकै हौला। देशलेे आर्थिक, सामाजिक, राजनीतिक

    क्षेत्रमा काँचुली फेरिरहेको बेलामा हाम्रो प्रेम पनि यथास्थितिवादीको कथा नबनोस् भन्ने हेतुले म

    यो पत्र कोर्‍र्दै छु। प्रेम परम्पराको अध्ययन गर्दा प्रेम पत्रलेखन पनि पुरुषहरुकै विभागीय काम

    भएता पनि मलाई त्यो परम्परा तोड्दा कुनै दुख छैन। अरु पार्टीले हार्ने ठाउँमा र हाम्रोले

    सकेसम्म महिला उम्मेदवारलाई टिकट दिएता पनि जित हाम्रै वर्गको भयो। त्यही जितको स्वाद

    लिँदै म आफ्ना ‘वैज्ञानिक’ तर्कद्वारा हाम्रो प्रेममा परिवर्तनको आवश्यकता औंलाउने चाहन्छु। कुरा

    तर्क सङ्गत लागे जित हाम्रै हुनेछ, नलागे हार पनि हाम्रै। यस पत्रले हामी बीच वैमनश्यता ल्याए

    त्यसको जिम्मेवारी पनि म कमरेड माधवकुमार नेपालले जस्तै यस प्रेमबाट राजीनामा दिएर

    गर्नेछु।

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    • Basanta 12:30 pm on April 24, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      I wonder how and what ‘new’ Nepal emerges now—

      But this writing was very good.

    • Kishan 9:32 pm on May 15, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      cool!! kati ramro love letter lekheko ni! I think you are one of those too few people I see in blogs, who has honestly expreseed the reality through this love letter. I am sharing my flat with one Maoist Army and one Nepali Army. I will also write if I get anything interesting about them….
      Chhatima hat rakhera lekheko raichha, ramro lagyo..

  • ramblings 

    Zadexpress 3:42 pm on April 12, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , my ramblings

    अजनबी शेहेरमे जिन्दगी मिल्गयी

    अजीब हे ये जिन्दगी ए जिन्दगी अजिब हे

    His apartment was the perfect Bachelor’s abode. Smart and clean furnishing. And Bangkok. He’d left his 60GB iPod beside the music system. The volume was loud and a cool breeze was blowing in the room from the verandah. Now and then someone would get up to dance. I don’t think anyone danced to this number “Ajnabi” from the movie Jannemann. But this song, whenever or wherever played reminds me of that evening in Bangkok. It could be the dramatization of reality but I think she was out in the verandah engulfed in the “ bhid mein vi he tanhayi” sorrow as she had told me of . And I’m listening to the very song right now…actually it’s already moved on to “Saun dard” …..Still as good as the last one..and I still get the Bangkok feeling :)

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    • :D 4:33 pm on April 12, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      That’s life for now. Elections and election result. The year 2064 ends today and hopefully a fresh start for Nepal from Baisakh 1, 2065 starting tomorrow. A fresh start for me too. I need IT. I wish for the completion of ‘my project’, more work, less leisure (no time for people esp. Bhaukhojuwas) and lots and lots of travel (far far from the madding crowd in the spur of the moment, ability to vanish whenever I wish too)….and anything to rock my existence, unexpected little joys now and then to spice up life…won’t settle for anything less… No compromises and no promises…..

      Good4U. Happy New Year!

      :)

  • Constituent Assembly Polls in Nepal: I Voted Did You? 

    Zadexpress 10:27 am on April 10, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: CA in Nepal, CA polls in Nepal, constituent assembly elections,

    Sunrise
    A new day awaits Nepal, like this sunrise on the Day of the Elections ( seen from the Araniko Highway)

    After an hour of standing in the line at The Election Center in Mahadevsthan, Koteshwor “Ga” I voted the first time in my life. My number was :773. I left home at ten-minutes to six clad in my ” म परिवर्तन चाहन्छु, ( I want Change) and I am not Alone” T-shirt deliberately. The t-shirt seemed to be made for occasions just like this. Now, that I Have Voted! I feel absolutely great. A friend of mine was quick enough to congratulate me for the feat. I did the same to her as well. We are both Proud First Time Voters of this nation! I would like to extend a congratulations to all the First time Voters who are reading this blog as well. Yahoo! We did it!

    elections
    People waiting for their turn to vote in Koteshwor
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    • dikshya 1:35 pm on April 10, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Hey! Happy Constituent Assembly Day!
      I guess I am the unlacky chap, couldn’t vote and the wind took away my prized posession. I wont forget this historic day.

      We are finally writing our own constitution, women voters are participating more enthusiastically than men and Nepal is going to be politically stable someday(chances da day is nearing)..
      Hail! to a new politically stable Nepal……….

    • Reality Bites 9:06 pm on April 10, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Happy VOTING ….. + Happy New year 2065 too….
      :)

    • Deepak 10:27 pm on April 10, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Congrats for casting vote for the first time. I can’t explain how much i miss a vote of mine.

    • shaurabh 8:28 am on April 23, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      hey!!!!!!
      If I was also in Nepal then definitely i would’ve voted for this ca elections……………………
      Missed this election badly!!!!!!!!!

  • Dumb And Dumber 

    Zadexpress 11:10 am on April 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Washington Post articles,

    There are at least a 100 things I could write on as Nepal finally awaits the CA elections to be held day after tomorrow. Still, am not being able to go any further than these “cut and paste” entries, which are very interesting reads to me at least. UntilI come up with something original here is another fine debate from the Washington Post : First Read this: We Scream, We Swoon. How Dumb Can We Get? and then be back to read the article below or just click the link:

    Dumb and Dumber: An Essay and Its Editors
    The question is not why Charlotte Allen wrote her silly piece — it’s why The Post published it.

    By Katha Pollitt

    I’ve never watched Oprah Winfrey’s show, bought a Celine Dion CD, read “Eat, Pray, Love,” or fainted at an Obama rally, although he is my preferred candidate. According to Charlotte Allen, that makes me an “outlier,” an exception that proves the rule that women “always fall for the hysterical, the superficial and the gooily sentimental.” But uh-oh: I used to watch “Grey’s Anatomy” from time to time, and I even shed some tears when Denny died. Maybe being female has turned my “pre-frontal cortex into Cream of Wheat” after all. Maybe I’m just another “kind of dim” female, a charter member of “the dumber sex.”

    In a casual essay of 1,700 words, Allen manages to stir together a breathtaking mishmash of misogynistic irrelevancies and generalizations. One minute she’s mocking women who bake cookies for their dogs; the next, she’s castigating Hillary Clinton’s campaign as “stupidest” partly because she fired her “daytime-soap-watching” Latina campaign manager too close to the Texas primary. (Note to Allen: Hillary won Texas with a flood of Latino votes.) She wonders why “no man contracts nebulous diseases” of possibly psychosomatic origins. (Note to Allen: Actually, they do.) She asks why women have more driving accidents. (Note to Allen: See below.) Could it be because women are mentally inferior, as proved by men’s greater ability to mentally rotate three-dimensional objects in space? Unless it’s a cute little puppy, that is, or maybe a cookie.

    The upshot: we ladies should focus on what we’re really good at — interior decoration and taking care of men and children.

    asian women
    Source: Internet

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  • Too successful for a mate? 

    Zadexpress 10:57 am on April 4, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: compromises, marriages

    I came across this article while checking my mails some time back. It’s a nice read. Excellent flow.Excellent reporting! The content however, may not hold true in our case if we are talking about the rise in number of single women, cause Most are married young in Nepal. Nevertheless, the essence holds true even in our context ( Why wouldn’t it??): men haven’t quite overcome their inability to see women as their equal-parts. “Gender” has become the buzz word, so everyone uses it. But few have understood the ‘gravity’ and ’sensitivity’ of the issue which is vivid through actions like giving women tickets to contest as candidates for CA elections where they are most likely to loose to begin with.. Read स्वागत महिला नेतृहरूलाई by दोभान र्राई in The Kantipur ( April 04,2008) edition ( Sorry, couldn’t give the link). Or just read this :

    Too successful for a mate?

    Today’s talented, ambitious women are staying single in droves. Are they too busy, too picky or — horrors — too awesome?

    By Kris Frieswick, MSN Money

    The majority of my most successful, good-looking, educated, talented girlfriends are still single.

    If they had Y chromosomes, they would have been married a decade ago. Instead, like successful single women all over the country, they trek into their mid- to late 30s on their own — experiencing fabulous professional success, buying real estate and making savvy investments for the future, without much going on in the relationship department.

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    • k 10:35 am on April 6, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      good read…. i devoured it ! ‘for a lot of guys, the simple girl is easier’ – this couldn’t be more true. if the girl starts thinking for herself, he blames her for having a huge ego ! once she starts taking her own decisions, he decides to dump her for a fresher, younger, wide-eyed-with-admiration nymph who can’t stop gushing about how smart and caring he is ! god help that ‘nymp’ coz she’s in for a rude shock !

      now u know z why guys always want to be ur friend – dukkha pokhne bhando – and nothing more ? if u’re a bit aggressive about who’s gonna do the HH chores, u’re ‘intimidating’. one guy told me ‘”i’m ready to help with the chores. i’m not one of those who sits by while his wife breaks her back over dishes and clothes”

      what nerve ! the stupid thick mind of some men don’t seem to get it that the chores are as much theirs as they are ours. the dishes and clothes are as much theirs as they are ours. so they’re not ‘helping’ us, they’re just doing their share of work. if any guy repeats the stunt of ‘helping the woman because i’m a modern man’, i’m going to hit him hard on his head and walk out the room.

      but there’s a catch here, “…everything else on that list was negotiable, including income and educational attainment…” now how many women are ready to accept a man who’s less educated than herself and earns less than herself, though the latter one might not be that big a problem. this is where the stereotyped role of men n women comes in, the supposed roles of both genders that have been hammered deep into our minds since we were born. it makes me wonder whether i myself am completely gender neutral, completely unbiased.

      well, it’ll take some time to reach there but reach there we must.

    • k 10:41 am on April 6, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      i watched a movie quite similar to the issue we’re talking abt, where there’s a black girl who’s made a partner of some bank and a white boy who’s a landscape architect (can u believe that? it’s my dream come true. a landscape arcitect would do if i can’t have the other ‘building’ architect) , and hence doesn’t earn that well. they have some racial issues as well but the overall theme’s similar. the male actor’s simon baker or sth. will let u know the name later. u should watch it. it’s like a modern day fairy tale.

    • Zadexpress 12:18 pm on April 6, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      now how many women are ready to accept a man who’s less educated than herself and earns less than hersel

      This made me think..What do I want? I’ve always had this obsession of “educational degrees” still..trying to overcome that but it’s hard..but it isn’t the matter of degrees only, it is the basic understanding of the issues that matter to me that should make some sense to the other person too..but I can’t think of a relation with no undergrad degree, I mean teti ta padnai paryo ni! And not just to have a degree but passion for what is studied too..leaving that apart I agree that girls prefer a guy more educated and higher income than themselves..( I would always want to earn more!!) However this preference could be the manifestation of the fact that women tend to be more “mature” than men@ the same age… so as educational degrees are taken as the sign of intelligence by and large ..thereby the preference.

      Still the reason girls prefer men of higher educational attainment as most of my friends say is entirely on the desire to learn from the person, grow intellectually ..However the Male preference for a less qualified woman in both education and accomplishments looks like “Male Chauvinistic” attitude to me…the desire to have the upper hand in the relation…they feel threatened…women see things so differently hai, I feel we make for the more +ve minded lot of the human species so many times.

      Not that all men are the same too, however even the ones who say they are different , in my experience and this time not guys who “befriend” me and “seek” my company or “call” me only when drunk….( god! i HATE HATE HATE them..ma ta strictly juice+milk lai matra herchu..sanchiiiii..ghari ghari ta damn frustu feel huncha!) …I mean those who would like to see their partners the same level or even higher than them seem to have another problem…They seek a partner who could “do” whatever “she” wants but then be some kinda ’secretary’ to them too.. as if HER dreams don’t exist! her preferences don’t matter…and it’s not like wanting her to be by his side ( tyo vaye ta hunthyo) but the exact secretary kind of thing..we travel and she makes my speeches blah blah blah kind …how can u have such stupid, ridiculous notions about the “partner” you seek….

      But again, if men seek a less qualified woman in whatever respect and a woman seeks a more qualified man and then they find another., where is the room to complain? Their life, their choice…Only makes it harder for a few of us! In a lot of cases, I feel it is the educated women who just get involved in a relationship or agree to marry, just coz “they will get married someday” who are too blame..And it’s easier for women , than a guy to get married because her “economy” isn’t cared for much. The poor guy has to supposedly have enough to “look after her” the problem comes in. If girls made it a point that Her Economic Independence mattered equally to that of a Man before marriage and the Guys also sought women who are economically independent too..somekinda women empowerment could be attained and a breakthrough in the traditional “gender” roles in our part of the world too…testaii lagcha….

      Afule kei nakamako vayeni keta ko gadi, ghar cha vandaima hamfalne ani independence khojne? How can you seek your voice when you have actually agreed to be “looked after” by someone else…I think a lot of us( women) are hypocritical in that sense…of course, the good thing is we can choose not to be in the gang. Ani Naya Nepal ka Naya Purush haru pani Mahila Success bata natarsine khalka hunchan ki? :wink:

      n I’d watched the movie too ( only ending though). from the family dance function only… My sister was telling me it’s a must watch. but didn’t find the gore keto tat great looking despite halka lamo kapal! :) I think a lot of ppl study architect enginnering these these, I mean even in Nepal…sud be invited to sum of their functions I guess! n i think our school friends, hopefully some engg will be there in the Marriage too.

    • k 9:02 pm on April 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      :)
      didn’t miss the last line.
      got sth to say abt the other lines but a bit later.

    • k 10:35 pm on April 8, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      yea it’s ‘not a matter of degrees but a basic understanding of issues (that matter to us)’ and ‘passion’ for their work or studies. but then it again comes down to the ‘intelligence level’ that we seek in our partner, doesn’t it? if he’s intelligent, meaning he knows his work inside out and can blabber about in the most intelligent way in front of ur frens in the next get-together, u think u’r man’s great. he’s like the showdog for u, sth to flaunt in front of ur frens. right then, income or educational degree ( which is usually directly propotional to the income level) wouldn’t be of any problem.

      male preference for a less qualified female is definitely male chauvinistic. but claiming that female preference for a more qualified male is bcoz of her ‘desire to learn from the person, grow intellectually..’ is a bit confusing to me. shouldn’t the learning be both ways? shouldn’t my guy be learning about being ‘gender sensitive’ from me (n maybe even vice versa) n shouldn’t i be learning about, say, driving or computers, from him? it could be any stupid thing until and unless it’s a two way process.

      having said all this, i’d like to add that it;s easier said than done. we’re still in the process of being neutral when it comes to gender, hence my previous concern : will i be content with a man who’s less educated than me and goes, “timle kamayera khwaihalchau ni…i’ll concentrate on my music lessons to children coz it’s my Passion”.

      but it’s also true that it’s more challenging for men than women when it comes to meeting the economic standards, what with having to ‘build his own home’, ‘look after the wife and kids’, provide for their education and all. n it’s partly because of women who ‘advocate’ equity between genders in conference rooms while living comfortable lives with their husbands’ income and partly because of women like us who’re in the transition and hence so confused that we still hang on to a few threads of orthodox beliefs while desperately trying to break loose.

      aba malai ta dherai bho. m starting to not make sense. too much of writing has that effect on me. it’s like being drunk, u slowly n steadily dont make any sense at all. i’m outta here now. c ya at the marriage. n i’m looking forward to meetin our school frens ;) . though i sincerely hope u won’t embarrass me n give away my secret with ur trademark antics of grinning and passing comments just when u shouldnt. please don’t get carried away. it’s not a request, it’s a warning !

      c ya.

    • Sandra 9:16 pm on April 26, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      I certainly identified with the woman who said she expected potential partners to be at least as successful as she is, and to have as much to offer. That’s me all over. I’m not ready to compromise either, so as the article said I may have to just enjoy the lovely view from my pinnacle on my own! C’est la vie.

    • Petrov 3:23 am on April 29, 2008 Permalink | Reply

      Guess it depends on what you call success. If making a lot of money is your goal, then focus on your career and not anything else. She who dies with the most toys, wins. Yay.

      If your goal is to have a family, then working all of the time to make money is not the optimal choice.

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